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Thursday, July 10, 2008

Warning..... downer blog ahead. Proceed with caution!

People. Let me fill you in on a little life lesson. Am I perfect? No, I am not. Am I somewhat logical in my thinking? Yes, I must say that I am. So, when I see someone throwing their life away.... no, that's not the correct phrasing. When I see someone doing NOTHING with their life, and therefore it is going quickly southward in a tsunami of uncontrollable negatively impactful ways, I get very frustrated. So, here's the life lesson:

Make pro-active decisions and act on them. You are empowered to do what you want to do for yourself, and you do not have your life dictated to you because of inaction!

We are all given thinking minds. If we use them in a positive way, we will achieve great results. If we let our fear stop us from acting, we are acted upon, which is never a good thing. We lose control of our circumstances, and therefore surrender our freedom of choice.

When I was little, I used to take FOREVER deciding which treat I wanted from the bakery counter. I would stand in front of the glass and vasilate between all the different choices before me. I had the hardest time just picking one... what if it was the wrong one? So, my mom would finally pick one for me, and it was NEVER one that I wanted. I would go home upset that I didn't get what I wanted. I have since learned to make the decision for myself, and I get what I want! (It's usually an eclaire, incidentally!)

So, why can't some people do this? Because of FEAR!!!! The particular person who has prompted this ranting is losing all control of their life because of their inaction. They are bound to be homeless in 2 days because they decided not to look for an apartment for the last month and a half. They have no job because they have made a series of decisions NOT to do something important that could help them get a job, or help them keep a job. They have quit going to counseling because they didn't want to make it work. They have not acted when they could have, and now it is too late.

My heart is broken for this person. I have done all I can, and it is out of my hands at this point. I hope somehow they will make a positive choice and try to reverse the direction their life is headed. I hope. That's all I can do.

I will take this lesson to heart. I will not let my life be dictated to me. I will decide who I want to be, and what it takes to be that person, and then act!


Heidi said...


You're doing the BEST thing for this person by not making decisions for them. By not enabling them (which is probably the hardest decision EVER!!!) you are doing SO much good.

*smooches* to you and your strong self! And thanks for the good reminder in the process. I have a decision I need to make as well, and I'm back and forth along the bakery counter at this point. I'm going to make my own decision before it's made for me. :)

Jen said...

I am so sorry. It is hard to watch someone you love that much make bad choices. I'll keep you in my thoughts!

Loralee Choate said...

I am so sorry, bug. It is beyond hard and I know how much you love that person and how this must just kill you.


Anonymous said...

That is gut wrenching, but I think you are helping this person in the end by doing what you are doing. You can only pull someone along for so long. Hang in there.

Melissa said...

I have been there, and am still there with my mother. It is so hard to sit there and do nothing, even if it seems easier for you to rush in and save them.

Be strong.

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